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Sweet new website

8 Mar

So I recently found this funny new website, its basically kind of like a social network where people can post stories and just vent about their ex’s, bosses or anything really. Check it out at or the Facebook app at


When you lose something it makes you realize what you should’ve done!

25 Nov

I am a fortunate person, throughout the last six years I have done more than most will ever dream of doing. Some things I regret, some you wish you could take back and others were positive. I have seen the world, seen the lifes and relationships of so many. Seen how deceitful and treacherous love can be. I have seen the dead float in Hurricane Katrinas aftermath and seen how lives change when offered a simple helping hand. Out of all of this has come some great lessons, by far the most important one that I have learned is how to treat a girl right, how to love. I contribute this lesson to the loss of a very special person to me, someone I love deeply and always will for being such a big part of my life for so long when she should’ve given up long ago.

I guess you could say I was a partier, socialite from the time I was in high school for some time up until a couple years after being in the Navy. During this time I never cared what a girl thought or how she felt, never truly ever treated a girl how she should be treated and for that I deeply regret. I had been to caught up in partying, being with random girls and this sort of fake sense of status that didn’t really matter. Until this point I had never really been official with anyone, dated had fun but never really took on an official dating approach. I would always get to bored after a couple weeks or so and move on. For a while, I had a saying that I swore by, “Every girl is the one, until the next one comes along.” All of that changed when I met this one girl, a girl who will go unnamed but knows who she is.

Yes, this girl was very different from the rest, in so many small ways she intrigued me and kept me interested. It was the fact that I could tell she didn’t mean to do these small things it was just who she was. Throughout our relationship things were great, and yes I had been bitten by the “Love bug”. During the time when things started to get serious there small things that I just couldn’t let go and for maybe a lack of better words didn’t know how to let go. I remember times where she had cried for me to just spend some time pleading desperately to just stay with her. At the time I was so consumed with being around friends that I ignored it thinking it was her being over dramatic. Looking back I realized that the one person who wanted only my love and affection was also someone I turned my back on. I realized that I had been such a huge jerk, that had I been responsible realized my friends can wait and will always be there I would’ve gladly given her that time.

My own selfishness had hurt the one true person that I had ever cared and loved. After realizing this sometime after I felt so badly but there was no way to make it up to her by then. The pain of me turning my back on her had been far to great and I had waited far to long to man up and realize what was going on. Eventually we became friends, as hard as it is to let go of a love I had to. I could no longer ask her to try being us when I know that I had hurt her so badly that she could never really ever look at me in the same way as she had before. It was a pivotal life lesson, that while it hurts me so much to say I had to learn.

Everybody eventually wants a girl/guy who will treat them right, love them and to grow old with and learning this lesson has shown me how to treat that girl. It has shown me how to let go of superficial and take responsibility for a relationship if I ever want to be truly happy. I have had a completely new approach on relationships since then and I have taken some flack for not being the “Tom Bird” that doesn’t care. Either way it doesn’t matter I know who I am and I know I’m making the right choices for me. I never want to be the person to claim to love someone and still treat them like that ever again.

Darfur horrible problem but still not ours

5 Dec

I just recently received an email from an organization maybe some you have heard of and quite possibly were a part of in some during this last Presidential election, “Rock The Vote.” For last couple months they have been sending reminders to vote and things like that for the presidential election but now they have cast their sights on Darfur. Darfur is a small African country in south of Africa where civil war has been a constant for well ever. Anyways they are trying to rally support saying, “Lets send a message to Mr. Obama to stop this genocide from happening.” You know, I agree this tragedy is terrible, I have been watching the situation and gone to their site where they have satellite photos depicting the damages. If you would like to see the images or visit the site its called Eyes On Darfur. To get an explanation of the violent crimes taking place from Wikipedia.

Anyways its a horrible situation but I am sorry personal thoughts are that we don’t need to be lobbying the President one way when there are to many issues on his plate that are affecting us directly. Secondly this is not our problem, if you research it, that are has had civil unrest since the beginning of time and always will. You may pause the violence but after time the government is not strong enough and it will all break out again. In addition we are already in a two front war and don’t need to make that a three front war. We spend to much on the wars we are still fighting right now whether or not we are still considered to be at war doesn’t matter because the money keeps on flowing out of our pockets and into their mouths. I have problem helping people but right now that is the least of our problems if we can’t even help ourselves and that is my issue with it.

Again before everybody tries to jump my junk, I do not, let me repeat that, I do not approve of the violence wish I could do something but right now is just not a good time for us to be addressing this issue.

Updates on my son Kylar

4 Dec

So yeah took my son back home here this last Sunday. Its crazy he is about to be two here in a couple months but he is already acting like a punk little two year old. Its great though the other day Kylar was running around and kept smacking into shat and of course Grandma’s freaking out like, “Oh Kylar are you alright”. Of course he looks at her like, “Get off me, I’m a boy I can take it!” I love it though thats how I know hes my son, not afraid of getting hurt and well stubborn do it my way whether I find out the hard way or not its my way.

He’s learning so many new words, just the other day I taught him to say dude! He’s getting everything down really good, knows all his animals, colors among other things. Plus he is already almost potty trained although sometimes he says “Poddy”, after he already went. Don’t worry though we are working on it. He already eats everything on his own with silverware and sometimes with thee additional help of hand from time to time. Can’t fault him though he does good. I am surprised though he loves helping us out with anything were doing. He will always run up to me when I am putting my clothes away, washing dishes or something like that and be like, “Help, Help?!” I know that wasn’t something that I did a lot of when I was younger but I guess its good as long as it stays that way.

He doesn’t fight bed or should I say hasn’t been until like the last two nights for some reason he didn’t want to go to sleep. He puts all his toys away when time without even being asked! Shocked the F out of me. He absolutely loves trucks, tractors and cars so I got him one of the little mini jeeps that has the gas pedals for reverse and forward and a little engine compartment he can play in. I guess it only goes 2.5mph but we’ll see what dad can do to fix that lol. I was wanted to go fast and I know he does so well have to find some nitro or something like that for it. I almost gave it to him early just because I know how much he is going to love it. My friends mom got him a hockey net and two sticks so definitely gonna be working on teaching how to play some puck here next time he comes down.

Its funny though cause me and him have been wrestling, and I been teaching him some brazilian jujitsu moves. Course he doesn’t really understand it he just thinks we are wrestling but I love it anyways because he likes playing rough and isn’t afraid of smacking his head around a little. Course I don’t ever let him get hurt while we are wrestling so don’t think that I am torturing him its not like that. What else, hmmm….

Iono,…. I have high, high hopes for him I can see him going so far. He comprehends things so quickly and understands more than most the three year olds that are in my mothers daycare I take him to when I am at work. I am proud as hell of him and can’t wait to see how the next couple years pan out. Plus I can’t wait till he starts dating just gonna be breaking hearts for sure. Plus I’m buying his first car and we are going to make that thing a beast! So you know the girls will be all about it.

Can I get ahead?!

1 Dec

Yeah so the weekend went well, had fun and Thanksgiving was great. So I go to take my son home last night to Ohio from Michigan. I start driving everythings cool get three and a half hours into a four hour journey when my car breaks down over heated. Yeah, but guess this that isn’t the worst part, I had gotten this car no more than 6 days ago. I had a Chevy Lumina which putzed out me, it had 270,000 miles so I don’t blame the old girl. Anyways I went last wednesday and picked this car up and it was already acting by the sixth day?! So it breaks down on the 75 south in Lima, Ohio. I am sitting there waiting for babies momma to come and get my son since I wasn’t going to be able to make it all the way down to where she was at and then I finally get it started for all of five minutes just to drive just close enough to see the exit but never get off the highway. So then babies momma gets there with her boy toy and he has diagnostic equipment which reads out that it has a cylinder five and six misfire which is probably the ignition coil and then also a low voltage in the tempature wire which I am not sure what that is but either way the thing wouldn’t start again so I ended up having to call my parents at 6pm to come and get me. It took them four hours to get there meanwhile I am wandering aimlessly in Wal Mart just trying to find something to do. Not to mention that yesterday in Michigan it decided to blizzard. So my mom finally gets there at like 9:30pm and I have to drive the entire way back in this crappy blizzard with idiot drivers which took over four hours didn’t reach home until 2:30am and now I am back at work writing about this horrid ordeal. Oh and around 8:30pm my phones battery decided to die on me to so then I couldn’t even talk to friends. lol, crazy crazy!

Wooohooo finally have total creative control over my companies website

26 Nov

So definitely stoked, I can control all creative content that will be going onto my companies website. The only thing that sucks is that we are using a cms similar to wordpress format. It will be fun though anyway, I have already embarked on three new projects to dress up the site and give a better feel. I feel like our web designer kind of slacked on us previously because a lot of the coding and design was kind of sloppy. Small things that most would never notice but things that eat me alive and annoy the heck out of me. I am very maticulous when it comes to creating my site and then to have these easy errors just sit there and not get changed annoyed me. Oh well though I now have full control so it will never be like that again and if it is it won’t be like that for long.

My website link

Brrrrr, yeah its coming!!!

24 Nov

Yeah so I know you can feel it, that cold crisp winter air. You can feel it all around you that cold but yet warm feeling that so many get during this time of year. Oh yeah time to do some serious shredding! In case you were unsure or perhaps the tags didn’t give it away I am talking about Snowboarding. Yes the winter cold has made her debut. Amazingly Boyne Mountain out near Traverse City, MI already has 9in. and they are pumping out even more as we speak.

So Grab your goggles, gloves, boots, and lets get ready to ride. This time next month I want to be on my board hurling myself down the side of a mountain at insanely high speeds with no other intention except being incredibly unsafe and wreckless. Maybe even a little drunk, okay definitely drunk, what you stay warmer that way, lol who’s with me?!

Oh I definitely need to get a new pair of pants and possibly gloves, found this tight website called The House so if your looking for gear check them out! They got some good deals if your budget is like mine and well lets face it a little tight. Below is the link:

Good place though, this is where I bought my bindings almost half compared to other places. I also got my boots from here. So anyways though I plan on making at least 4 trips to Boyne this year and getting a season pass for Holly or Knob just because they are close. Plus I got a friend that can get lift tickets for Boyne at half price so if anyones interested let me know. Otherwise get geared up and ready!